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Many of us go through life feeling empty of self love. For those in relationships, it is all too easy to be immersed in this ‘perfectionist’ society that we become critical of our aesthetic flaws. First it starts out with being unhappy with our looks, then it’s our bodies and lastly, we even put our state of mind down with things like ‘silly me’, ‘I’m such a klutz’ or ‘trust me to get it wrong’. When in a relationship, carrying around so much emotional baggage leaves us unable to love ourselves let alone love our partner and so we end up feeling lonely in a relationship. Whilst others may be envious of our ‘perfect’ relationship we are only too aware that this is a facade and that deep down we dislike the person we are and cannot open up to our loved ones about how we feel. If this is you, do you find yourself:
If this is you then you are certainly not alone. Your self esteem and self worth have been damaged as a result of some emotional trauma in your life but the good news is that it can be restored in the following ways. Accept imperfection
Whilst we are constantly bombarded with images of perfectionism from celebrities on billboards and magazines just take a step back and think how beautiful it is to be imperfect and not like everyone else. Then ask yourself, does imperfection adversely affect lives in anyway? Look at celebrities like Sarah Jessica Parker and Victoria Beckham. They may be successful but they are hardly described as beautiful and ‘perfect’ yet they have made their uniqueness a brand in its own right. Accept compliments
How often when we are told we look nice do we answer back with a negative statement that does us a disservice? Never appreciating what others see in us again is damaging to who we are. So the next time someone says your hair is nice or you are look good before giving a negative criticism of yourself, graciously say ‘thank you’ Erode Insecurity
I have often heard women asking their partners ‘why do you like me?’ or ‘what do you like about me?’ Right there, that spells insecurity. It shows that we do not love ourselves enough to know who we are. It also demonstrates that we don’t feel as though there is anything to like about ourselves and so we reject the advances and attention of our partners. With this in mind, take a step back and analyse your relationship and the very things that brought you and your partner together. Having something in common with our partner often bonds us closer so use that as a starting point to keep the relationship fresh. Also, rather than asking repeatedly why your partner likes you, instead ask yourself ‘why shouldn’t my partner like me?’ He/she’s obviously still with your for a reason, write down why this is so. Accept intimacy
When with your partner, do you find it easier to have sex than to be intimate in other ways such as cuddling, kissing and holding hands? Do you run away from having a deeper bond with your partner because you are scared of being ‘hurt’ or ‘rejected’ in the future? Do you feel as though he/she will see your flaws and judge you negatively? When your partner gazes affectionately at you, do you turn away, scared to reciprocate? If this is so, you may need to explain to your partner that you need time to get used to the relationship and will need to take things slowly. If your partner is worth his/her weight in gold and truly values you, they will be patient allowing you to emotionally open up and let them in when you’re ready. Also, this is an ideal time to work on your ‘friendship’ with your partner as you spend time getting to know each other, trust begins to grow and as trust grows so too will your heart open up the more comfortable and secure you feel in your relationship. Remember though that a good relationship will not rid you of the emptiness you feel inside, it will however enhance it. The emptiness inside is because you are lacking in self love and are seeking fulfilment of some kind which may not be solely acquired from a relationship;
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